LETTING GO OF EXES (SERIES) - PHASE 3
In life, it is known that experiences are the best teachers and I am sure we can all attest to its legitimacy. We also know that assumptions are sometimes true but facts are what we live by just as the best decisions in life are from past experiences. We learn every day and that is the consistency of life.
Development is what we all strive for, especially personal development. What are we really targeting in relation to that? Advancement in self – cognizance, capacity organisation, ambitions and just the overall superiority of our lives. Correcting our mistakes when given another opportunity is one of the few ways we can achieve this.
No one is 100% perfect (I keep on saying that), a relationship may end because of an act of one but there would have been other situations where the other was wrong and that might even be what lead to the act of the one that resulted into the end of the relationship.
Understanding that we are all different and that what you feel is normal or good may not necessarily be the same thoughts or feelings of others concerning the same issue is vital. It is a part of life.
You will not know the view, opinions or suggestions of others without putting the issue in front of them. You cannot know the true reactions or actions of people when they have not faced that particular situation.
So then, how do we enhance situations?
3. PICKING UP LIFE LESSONS
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People perceive past relationships as an indication of failure, waste of resources and baggage of uncomfortable emotions which is an ideology we should desist from having because in actual fact they are perfect experiences for life lessons. There are important relationship lessons that no one can or will tell you unless you experience it first-hand.
A huge advantage of being in a relationship with a person is the ability you develop to pick up on nonverbal cues and underlying tones much better and faster than other people associated with the person you are in the relationship with; that is truly knowing someone. That provides a chance to obtain certain skills and insights when it comes to communication, conflict resolution, character understanding and lots more.
Relationships teach lessons we NEED to know and though we are referring to romantic relationships here, the lessons learnt can be applicable to other relationships which are platonic, family based and so on. The philosophy should be that, within every encounter there is a prospect.
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Despite that, every relationship is different and a handbook which gives instructions on how to make things work positively does not exist. Each relationship will have ups and downs and that is where every couple gets the chance to learn valuable lessons along the way; what worked and what did not work.
This is why in my earlier posts on the previous two phases, I emphasized on not regretting because you should not feel bad or sorry for the experiences and lessons learnt from that relationship. You should appreciate and be grateful for such opportunities; a chance to rectify inaccuracies.
It is in a way automatic to learn but in this situation where you will like to keep the past in the past, you might ignore the lessons you should in point of fact adopt and apply.
Your ability to willingly pick up life lessons after the end of a relationship is a mature move and one that points to the fact that you hold no grudges or/and have no regrets. You do not blame the other person for the failure of the relationship as we are all responsible for what happens in our lives. Boldly taking up that obligation and working on it is the right way to learn and make things better for the future which we all want to be beautiful and successful. Remember that whatever life throws at us, we should study it leading up to knowledge acquisition.
This is just the third phase and an essential one also so do it and do it right. Watch out for the blog post next week which will contain information on the next phase. If you have anything to say such as a suggestion or constructive criticism or experience or opinion, then comment on this post but if it is private or personal contact me on Instagram @cee_jay_lynn and I will get back to you.
Thank You for Reading and Good Luck!!!!
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