SELF - RELIANCE

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Let’s all analyse something critically here, shall we?

The ‘typical’ notion is men must be independent but women must be dependent.

That is absurd, isn’t it?

Both men and women should be dependent and independent as and when the need arises.

Being self – reliant basically means believing in your own powers to do what is required when needed, primarily for oneself.

Through that you become self – assured.

You do not debase yourself.

But I don’t think that makes one proud.

I believe it just makes you a person who understands that people have problems of their own so you are not selfish to the extent that you want them to place your needs above theirs.

Despite that, you are a rational person and therefore understand the concept of asking and accepting opinions and help.

But it is not the basis on which you live and breathe.

Self – empowerment, self – confident, self - appreciation are but a few of the other theories that surround and constitute self – reliance.

I don’t think you can be all these without relying on yourself during and after.

They are correlated. 

Don’t worry, it is not getting mathematical or statistical. 

Now, we cannot encourage all these philosophies and disregard or frown upon self – reliance.

It is misleading and becomes a fallacy, not so?

A self – reliant person is not proud.

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Now before you counter that statement, think about the likely back stories.

A person who lost something huge because he/she asked for a favour and was let down.

A person who made an unrepairable mistake because he/she acted on the opinions of others.

A person who cannot receive from another without giving something in return as exclusively free things are hard to come by in this era as you may know.

With a factual and unbiased thinking, that can make an individual independent and slightly closed off to others.

Someone might say we have all experienced a thing of that sort but understand that we are all different and therefore react to situations inversely so we cannot fault people for that. 

My final thoughts?

Being self – reliant benefits us all.

How you may ask.

It allows us to be able to help others better since we can relate well.

Disappointment no longer becomes a dominant issue.

And since an ultimate happiness lies in getting/doing things ourselves, the world becomes a happier place.

We should encourage individuals especially women to be independent.

We should also encourage others to be affiliated with people because we do not live in this world alone and even the richest individuals and first men/women of a country still require the services and advises of others just like an average person.

No man is an island but no man is also incapable of making him/herself happy at least once.

Accepting this little fact, reduces the level of dispute around particularly in families. 

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Thank you for reading!